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Always feel like crying on your birthday? There's a reason why.

I recently turned 42. It’s a bit of a blah number, sure. But for the most part, I'm not particularly bothered by getting older. Having unexpectedly lost a friend when we were both 39, every subsequent year feels like something to be especially grateful for, which I am.

Be that as it may, in the lead-up to my birthday this year I couldn't shake off what can only be described as an underlying sense of melancholy. It got worse as the day got closer and then on my actual birthday; I found myself co

What are relationship ‘bids’ and why should you pay attention to them?

Ah relationships, they’re not always easy, are they? Between work, kids, and the daily grind even the best of them hit the occasional bump in the road. But what if we told you there was a statistically proven way to ensure the success of your relationship?

Well, according to John Gottman, renowned relationship expert, psychologist, and founder of The Gottman Institute, that’s exactly what understanding your partner’s ‘bids’ can do.

Making this small change dramatically improved my life and it was all about the dos and don'ts of everyday life

The idea was raised in a recent session with my psychologist.

I was expressing my belief that if I could just get up a bit earlier each day to meditate, my overall wellbeing would improve.

I expected my psychologist to agree and gently encourage me to find ways to prioritise it. Instead, she suggested I might be better off finding ways to do less, instead of adding more to my already jam-packed schedule.

It caught me by surprise. Like a lot of people, I've been conditioned to believe that doi

'I was forced to completely rethink how I exercise in my 40s. I wish I'd done it sooner.'

I firmly believed I had to end up red-faced and dripping in sweat every time I exercised or it didn’t count. This new program has turned all that on its head. I don’t feel like I’m going to my edge every time I train, but I’m getting great results and I’m missing fewer sessions because the recovery time is a lot lower. This feels revolutionary to me and it seems I’m not the only one.

In a recent interview with ELLE magazine, Jennifer Aniston shared that she’s recently come to a similar conclusi

Move over love languages, what you really need to understand is relationship 'fight styles'.

When you think of healthy relationships, chances are the first thing that comes to mind isn’t conflict. However, according to podcaster, author, life coach and former monk, Jay Shetty, being aware of how you and your partner ‘fight’ is a key component to any successful partnership.

Shetty believes that just as we have love languages, we have fight languages or styles as well, and the more we can understand one another’s ‘fight style’, the better our intimate relationships will be.

Okay, but ho

'I just got rid of the last of our baby gear and it made me ridiculously happy. Here’s why.'

It’s been one of those jobs I’ve been avoiding for months, unable to cross it off my to-do list no matter how many weeks in a row it appeared.

In hindsight, I guess I’d been avoiding it because a) it’s time-consuming and b) it requires a reasonable amount of energy. Two areas of life where there’s not a lot of surplus right now.

It was only when my husband ordered a skip bin and told me he was cleaning out the garage that I knew it was now and never. You must know that my husband is an anti-ho

Millennials are hitting middle age. Here's what they want Gen Z to know.

In a society that lauds youth and beauty above much else, especially where women are concerned, ageing is something that makes many of us uncomfortable. We’re told the pretty are privileged and women of a certain age become invisible. So, understandably, we worry. About our place in this culture when the attributes deemed most desirable start to diminish, about our value thereafter. Some of us hold on to our youth for dear life, conditioned to believe we will age at our own peril, convincing our

'The opposite of triggers': How 'glimmers' help my mental health

It's a deceptively cold winter's day. The sun is shining, the water is glistening, but the wind hurtling around me has an icy bite. After getting my ocean fix, I head back to the car.

Getting inside feels like entering a giant bubble of warmth. My shoulders, which have been up around my ears, relax down. I bask in the sensation of defrosting in the sun-drenched car for a moment before heading off.

On the surface, there's nothing very remarkable about any of this. However, according to Deb Dana

'I tried the "Let Them Theory" on my kids... Here's what happened.'

So, what did I let them do?

With my curiosity piqued, I decided to try the ‘Let Them Theory’ on my kids for a week. Keeping in mind that my kids are nine, seven and four, it wasn’t as if I was about to let them do every little thing that came to mind, because a) I didn’t want to end up in jail, b) boundaries, and c) that’s not what this is about.

Where I let them go further than usual was in their decision-making, risky play and personal accountability – areas I usually find myself intervening

'Say goodbye to your Saturday mornings!' 7 parents and an expert on kids' extracurriculars.

Pull out your puffer vests and say goodbye to your Saturday mornings, because it’s term two and weekend sport is back. We have three kids aged nine, seven and four, so we said goodbye to our Saturday mornings quite some time ago. In all seriousness, with two of our three now at school, the extracurricular activities are really ramping up and I’m feeling conflicted. We have a weekly schedule that involves multiple dance classes (acro/jazz/hip hop) on different days, at various times and locations

'I'm a primary ethics teacher. Here are the 5 biggest things it teaches kids.'

When our eldest child started kindergarten at the local public school, we were given the option of her attending weekly lessons in religion, ethics, or neither.

Not being religious, my husband and I liked the idea of her attending ethics classes, which are described on the NSW Department of Education’s website as: "A program in ethical decision making, action and reflection within a secular framework." So, we ticked that box and didn’t think much of it until later in the term when our daughter

'I've started wearing shorts for the first time in more than 15 years. Here's why.'

Me and my legs. It’s complicated.

Like a lot of women, I have been waging a rather futile war against a body part of mine for decades now. Ever since I was in my teens, I’ve been self-conscious about my legs. They’re short, thick and being that I have very fair skin, that is jokingly referred to by friends, family and even medical professionals as being see-through, they’re splattered with visible spider/varicose veins in fairly prominent places.

All this has meant that I’ve gone to great leng

Why do you get sick when you stop? Two experts explain.

When we’re really busy and stressed, like a lot of us are these days, it’s pretty common to delay R&R until you can take some proper time off, such as when you go on a holiday. The trouble is, if you head into a break completely exhausted, your immune system isn’t going to be working at its best to begin with.

"When you are stressed, your body’s immune system is stimulated to help heal wounds or injuries. During longer period of stress, your immune system may become fatigued, making you more vu

'You're not lazy. You just don't know your energy type.'


• Role: Hybrid of Manifestors and Generators – they are the multi-passionate, multi-taskers.
• Percentage of the population: 33 per cent.
• How they use energy: They have consistent energy, but can have inconsistent motivation, depending on how satisfying they find their work.
• Strategy: Respond to what is presented to them, inform others, then take action.

"The big thing about Manifesting Generators is that most of them feel like they don't fit in. Manifesting Generators are here to break th
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